For fully immersive relaxation it’s important to engage all the senses, and scent is a very powerful one. In fact, research indicates that scent is a primary factor in sexual attraction, with pheromones playing a huge role in whether we are attracted to someone or not. Scent has a direct impact on our brains, specifically the amygdala, responsible for emotions, and the hippocampus, responsible for memories. So, if we like a scent, we are much more likely to associate positive feelings and memories with it. Aphrodisiac scents such as jasmine, sandalwood, ylang ylang, bergamot, or vanilla are perfect for setting the mood. Use an essential oil humidifier or light some scented candles and let your nose lead the way.
Never underestimate the power of ambient lighting. Not only does light regulate our circadian rhythm, but it also has a big impact on our mood. Harsh, white lights are more likely to make us feel on edge, while soft, yellow toned lights correspond with dusk and dawn and make the body feel more relaxed. Softer lights are also more flattering which helps when it comes to self-confidence. Strings of warm white fairy lights are perfect for creating a magical ambience, while candles can double up for romantic lighting and scent. Give the big light the night off.
Much in the same way that scent is important for attraction, texture has an influence on how we feel. Textures are something we turn to when in need of emotional reassurance or relaxation, so incorporating the right ones will help to create a perfectly romantic space. Smooth textures are key here, think luxurious velvets, warm furs, and smooth silks. Add a faux fur rug to the floor, a velvet bedspread to the bed, or lavish silk or satin sheets for the ultimate in tactile indulgence.
They say that silence is golden, but when you’re trying to set the scene, it can put a dampener on things! Music is a great way to create that romantic vibe you’re looking for, no awkward silences needed. There are lots of pre-made playlists online, but someone else’s idea of sexy music might not be quite what you were looking for. If you haven’t got time to check the songs on the playlist then it’s always best to create your own to avoid any weird and wonderful surprises. Spend some time thinking about songs that make you feel romantic and that set the tone for the type of space you want to create and curate a playlist from them.
Last but by no means least – the most important piece of furniture in any bedroom. The bed. Traditionally, romantic bedrooms tend to feature a four-poster bed, but it’s easy enough to create the look and feel of an enclosed bed without investing in a whole new frame. Drape long swathes of sheer fabric from the ceiling to create a canopy that envelopes the bed and creates a welcoming and cosy space. Make sure that your mattress is on point as well – saggy surfaces and broken springs aren’t going to do much for the mood! If yours is showing signs of wear and tear, it’s time to invest in a new one.